How to Talk About STD Testing

How to Talk About STD Testing

Broaching the subject of STD testing with your partner, significant other, or spouse is a difficult conversation to have. But it shouldn’t have to be. Indeed, the benefits of seeking out regular STD tests are numerous, and the risks you run if you eschew this important service are potentially fatal. The truth is though, there is still a stigma around STD tests. It’s something people don’t want to think about –– much less discuss openly. Fortunately, we’ve got a few ideas on how to handle this delicate subject matter.

Take the Initiative

One of the best ways to get the ball rolling is to get tested yourself. More people would get tested if they knew someone who’d taken this important first step. By seizing the initiative, you can speak with authority about the facilities, process, and generally answer any questions your friends or partners may have. STD testing is like anything else; it may seem frightening at first, but in reality, there’s nothing to be afraid of.

Don’t Accuse

Plain and simple, you can’t tell if someone has an STD just by looking at them. Nor can you accurately surmise someone’s well-being based on their sexual history. So don’t accuse your partner of having an STD. Taking this tone with someone will likely lead to unwanted backlash –– and possibly make them less willing to seek out testing themselves. Instead, adopt a more measured approach.

Be Honest and Open

Lying about your own sexual well-being will only cause greater trouble down the line. It may be an awkward conversation to have, but if you’ve got an STD (especially a viral one, like herpes) you should disclose this information to your partner(s) before you engage in intercourse. Firstly, it’s the right thing to do. And secondly, if more people were open and transparent about their sexual wellness, then we’d soon reach a point where it didn’t carry such a negative connotation in society. To use herpes again as an example: the CDC estimates that around one in six people between ages 14 and 49 have herpes. That’s a significant amount.

De-Stigmatize Testing

There are no downsides to STD tests. In fact, regardless of the results, there are only advantages. Millions of people live with STDs and don’t even realize it. And that’s partially the case because so many people still feel shame or embarrassment about STDs. Fortunately, that stigma is starting to lift. Indeed, even dating apps are beginning to recommend STD tests. At the end of the day, it may not be the easiest subject to talk about –– but it’s absolutely vital that you do so.